A New Look at Valentine’s Day

Valentine's Day Blog 2.13

Valentine’s Day has been one of my favorite holidays for a very long time. When I recently told one of my best friends this fact, she looked at me kinda crazy and asked, “Why?”

As I thought about it, we walked into a store decorated with pink and red everywhere…hearts hanging from the ceiling, pink and red fuzzy blankets, chocolate candies wrapped in pink and silver foil…the list goes on…

I said, “Look at this! What’s not to love? Doesn’t it just make you feel happy to see this?”

Again I was met with a “you’re crazy” look followed by a half-hearted, “I guess?”

I don’t have a lofty, overly spiritual reason to love Valentine’s Day. I just do.

I know not everyone loves Valentine’s Day as much as I do, but I’d like to share with you a new perspective on Valentine’s Day that might bring a little joy to your heart tomorrow…

Your “love-ability” is not determined by someone else.

The idea behind Valentine’s Day {in today’s society} is expressing our love to someone else…and the hopes of that love being returned. But for you, your love might not be returned on this day of love. So what does that say about you?


Your “love-ability” {as I like to call it} is not determined by someone else. No one has to tell you that you are loved for you to be loved. The truth is God created you in His image, and He loves you. God’s love for you determines your “love-ability.”

Did you catch that?

No person has to choose you for you to be chosen.
No person has to say “I love you” for you to be loved.
No person can define your worth.

As you embrace or endure Valentine’s Day this year, my prayer is that you can cling to the truth.

Whether you get a beautiful bouquet of flowers or are home alone…either way, you are loved.

Here are two truths about you this Valentine’s Day.


I know you have heard this before, but have you really considered the truth of this statement? Have you taken time today  to consider what this means? Have you stopped to let yourself understand that Jesus didn’t just die for your loved ones…He died for you?

Does your heart fully grasp how loved you really are? Have you recently read the account of Jesus dying on the cross and let it sink in that it was His LOVE for you that held Him there?

Recently, God has been reminding me that it was out of LOVE that Jesus died for me. Jesus longed for a relationship with me so badly that He would literally do ANYTHING to be able to love me and let me know His love. He didn’t just say, “I love you.” He demonstrated His love for you and for me in this…while we were still sinners, He died for us.

He didn’t use your sin as an excuse for Him not to love you. He loved you despite your sin. He love you so that you would no longer have to live in sin.

Jesus’s love for you is not dependent on your actions. The choice is His. He loves you.

He could not love you more, and He will never love you less.

2. God loved you first. 

As you consider God’s love, consider this…He loved you first. {I John 4:19}

As we think about love, we often have a misrepresented view of love. This makes sense because most of our interactions with love are with humans. We can’t physically see God, and sometimes, if you and I are honest, “feeling” His love is hard. It’s illusive and isn’t always tangible. So naturally, our concepts of what love looks like stems from what we learn from the world around us.

And as I prepared for this article, I was looking for some good “love quotes” but I gotta say, although I laughed out loud at most of them {or at least most of the ones I wasn’t rolling my eyes at}, our human ideas on love are completely warped!

To be fair, I wasn’t looking for Biblical quotes on love…just general what-does-the-world-say-about-love kind of quotes.

What I found…nothing good.

So back to Scripture I went. And it is a good thing, because there are some amazing things we can learn about love from even the shortest verses in the Bible.

We love because he first loved us. {1 John 4:19}

This short verse tells us so much about God’s love for us. It reminds us on this Valentine’s Day, that you and I didn’t earn God’s love. You didn’t do all the right things so that He would love you. He loved you before you were born. He loved you so much that before you even walked the earth, God sent His son to die for you.

God hand-knit you together. He created you on purpose with a purpose. His love for you never fails. Even when you fail Him, His love never fails.

He loves you and continues to choose to love you day after day after day.

He doesn’t manipulate you into loving Him. He doesn’t shame you for your mistakes. He doesn’t hold your past over you, and He doesn’t threaten to take away His love if you don’t perform.


I pray that as you are bombarded with pink and red heart overload tomorrow, each glimpse will be a reminder that you are loved.

Happy Valentine’s Day, Loved One!

I've been a follower of Jesus for over 30 years, and have been teaching God's Word to students and women for nearly 20 years! God has brought me through some difficult chapters in my own life, and now my passion is equipping women like you with tools to embrace your own unexpected chapters in life with grace and truth.

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