Do you ever have one of THOSE days? I do. They seem to come in waves for me…won’t have one for awhile, then I might have 4 in one week! Well, yesterday I had one of THOSE days. Nothing was specifically wrong, I was just off for whatever reason.
SOOO, that is why this WW! post is coming a little later today. Thanks for your grace and for letting this be a place where we can all be real.
Over the weekend I started reading thru Shaunti Feldhahn’s for women only: what you need to know about the inner lives of men. I read this book when I was single and it opened my eyes to things I never knew or understood about men. I decided to read through it again now that I am married and see what new insights I can learn so that I can love, understand and support my husband in a way that honors him. After reading through the first couple chapters, I thought I would share a few of the insights I highlighted as I read. So todays words are from Shaunit Feldhahn.
“If you want to love you man in the way he needs, then you need to ensure that he feels your respect most of all.” pg 23
“We may be totally perplexed when our man responds negatively in a converation, helplessly wondering, What did I say? combine this with the difficulty many men have articulating their feelings (i.e., why they are upset), and you’ve got a combustible–and frustrating–situation.” pg 24
“Just as you want the man in your life to love you unconditionally, even when you’re not particularly lovable, your man needs you to demonstrate your respect for him regardless of whether he’s meeting your expectations at the moment… Dr. Eggerichs says, ‘…we’ve come to think that love should be unconditional, but respect must be earned. Instead, what men need is unconditional respect–to be respected for who they are [i.e., our husbands], apart from how they do.'” p26
These few insights were enough for me to reflect on for a couple days. I have to ask myself, “Do I show Carl unconditional respect? Does he feel my respect above all else?”
One other topic that really hit home was respecting your man in public. Feldhahn stated that public disrespect can cut into the deepest part of a man, so as a loving wife we should avoid this at all costs.
How do you talk about your spouse in public? Or with your friends when he’s not around? Do you demonstrate your respect for him with your words?
These are all questions I have had to ask myself.
Demonstrating respect to our husbands is vital to a healthy marriage, and is definitely biblical.
How do you demonstrate your unconditional respect to the man in your life? I’d love to hear from you so that we can support each other on this journey!