This week I have had lots of conversations with women about relationships. Some are single and at an amazing place of enjoying their singleness to the point that they are determined to wait for the right “one” and stop giving the wrong “one”s the time of day. Others are married and honest about the fact that marriage doesn't solve the problems you had before you entered into the marriage. I am realizing as I write the Wedding Wednesday! blog each week that we can never stop learning about marriage. If you've been married for 60 years or 60 minutes, we can all learn to be better spouses. I hope that is your goal.
This week I have been reading Gayle Haggard's book Why I Stayed: The Choices I Made in My Darkest Hour. This book has challenged me as a wife more than I can say. In this memoir, Gayle Haggard recounts her story and shares why she chose to stay with her husband through the crisis of New Life Chuch in November 2006. It has given me a new respect for grace and mercy and the covenant I made to God and my husband on the day of our wedding. I still have about 75 pages left, but I can't wait to finish it.
So after reading this book and chatting with my friends about marriage, I decided that today for WW! I wanted to let you in on a few of my favorite books on marriage AND I want to hear your favorite books, too! So please share your favorite book(s) on marriage and let us know why it is your favorite.
Here are a few of my faves.
The DNA of Relationships, Gary Smalley. This book, as I've mentioned before changed my life long before I was married! I would recommend it to both marrieds and singletons who want to understand your own issues and want to be a better spouse today or someday in the future.
His Needs, Her Needs: Building an Affair-Proof Marriage, Willard F. Harley, Jr. This was a great book to read as a couple. When Carl and I read it we each highlighted what we felt was important, and then compared our highlights to see if we were on the same page. It was enlightening for me to get a glimpse into the male heart and soul. (I'm definitely not an expert on that!) This book discusses the top five needs for men and women. Harley's thought is, if you don't meet your spouses needs, someone else will. So if we understand our spouses needs and meet them, then we are being proactive against our spouse letting someone else meet his/her needs.
Sacred Influence: How God uses Wives to Shape the Souls of Their Husbands, Gary Thomas. This book made my top three list because it taught me how to respect my husband more. Written by a man, it given insight into how men receive the comments we send their way. He motivated me to choose my words wisely and to honor my husband. This is not a book about how to get your husband to be the man you want him to be. So if you are looking for a book to help you manipulate your husband, this isn't it. If you are looking for a book on how to love your husband as Christ called you to, then this is your book.
These are my top three at this time. What are yours? Please let us know why your favorites are your favorites.
My prayer is that as we love our spouses like Christ loves us, others will see that love and come to know Christ. I pray you will invest in your marriage. Learn how to love your spouse as Christ loves you. If you are still single begin preparing your heart now for the relationship that God might one day bring into your life. You can never learn too much about how to love other people.
Press on Sweet Friends! Press on!