Over the past couple years, I have had the honor of becoming friends with an amazing woman: Heather Proctor. Her heart for Jesus and her desire to encourage women in their walk with Him is contageous. I am very priviledged to have shared the platform with Heather at a couple women’s retreats and will have that honor again next Saturday at the Discover Conference in Shelbyville, IN. I want you all to get to know this great speaker, writer and lover of Jesus, and so I asked her to be a guest blogger this weekend and then again next week…so please enjoy and be encouraged and challenged today, and check back again next Wednesday for another guest blog by Heather. God bless. Faith
I was still angry as the movie credits rolled. “How in the world did he get away with treating her soooo badly! What if my husband, should I ever have one, does the same thing?”
It was in the “what if” moment that I felt God whisper to my heart. He said
“Heather, you don’t have to worry about that happening later—you are doing it to yourself, now.”
You see, I was stuck in the trap of believing the world knew who I was and I gave them permission to tell me if I was good ‘enough” or not. As a recovering people-pleaser I base my worth on what people think of me. I’m also a wordy who remembers what people say about me personally—good and bad. These traits combined were leading my mind down the path to pity and self-loathing
After hearing what God said to me, I decided it was time to take an intense look at my thought process and be honest about what I thought about me. God was so gentle in showing me how I had been defining myself and He gave me the tools to change. They are found in scripture. Ephesians 1:11 says “It is in Christ we find out who we are and what we are living for.” (Msg)
In Christ, who does not change, is where I find myself. He is the only person who has authority to speak into my life about who I am. It is my choice to believe what He says about me.
He has forgiven me. Not only forgiven but He has redeemed me. He lavishes His love on me. (Eph 1:7-8) He is enthralled with my beauty. (Psalm 45:11) Why? Because He created me. I have been made well, as I am. (Psalm 139:14). He has good plans for me (Jeremiah 29:11, Eph. 2:10) and all things will work out for my good. (Romans 8:28)
So, the question is—who/what defines you? Who/What do you give authority to speak into your life about the depths of who you are? And is it time to make a change?
Maybe you had this realization a long time ago, which verses of scripture to you refer to you on your “bad days”? What have you found helpful in battling negative thoughts?